We are a very emotional species. Emotions play a big part in our everyday lives influencing our decisions, our social interactions and fueling our spontaneous reactions both good and bad. At times, caught in the grips of an emotional moment our ability to think straight can get totally derailed, clouded over with anger, jealousy, pride, feelings of injustice or all matters of negative emotional feelings. As a result we do things, say things that later we are not proud of. That later, after our emotional tirade wanes, we regret.
BLINDED BY THE NOW
Life is busy, involving and time consuming. For a lot of us its not until retirement do things slow down enough to allow us time to regain our full perspectives. At least that’s what happened to me. I’m amazed now thinking back on my once busy life and how emotionally caught up we get with its daily pursuit’s, its ups and down roller-coaster ride of emotional entanglements and perceived crisis’.
Some of these crisis were very real, but most of them emotional trivial nonsense in the grand scheme of things. Looking back now, its easy to see how many times we’ve made a mountain out of a mole hill and stressed ourselves needlessly over foolish things. But of course Hindsight is 20 – 20 and our in the moment perspectives were much different at the time.
When you have increasing time alone to think about the past, your life looks very different then when you were heavily engaged with it. You see now maybe even for the first time, your faults, your missed opportunities and regrets. Perhaps someone that you’ve treated badly or wrongly ignored in the past? Someone you misjudged or mishandled in light of re-evaluating their then circumstances. Funny how clearer things become when we re-look at them minus the emotional tags that were once associated.
With more thinking time, we replay in our mind the lost opportunities we let slip away. If only I had said this? Instead of that? Done this? Instead of that? Or took more time in making my decision concerning this or that. Life is full of regrets yet we only seem to realize them fully long after they’ve come and gone. The worse of them still haunts us but we must forgive ourselves for not being perfect and move on. There really is no other choice.
Speaking about not being perfect, what about all those dumb arguments of little consequence you were involved in throughout your life. Emotional over-reactions that led to words not able to be taken back. Purposely directed to hurt or stubbornly defended for no good reason letting pride get in your way of other peoples feelings. Perhaps now you may even see incidents when you were wrong or at the least mishandled or over-reacted to them? It seems only Time has a way of deleting emotion from the equation, helping us look again from an outside the box perspective clarifying our past actions.
BEEN THERE DONE THAT
Yet I suppose its all part of life. We are a very emotional species and more often than not that’s what drives us, especially when we are young. It has influence on most things that we do and most of what we’ve done.
Perhaps only with the experience of age comes better control and understanding of how emotions rule our lives for better and worse. Yet this somehow seems misappropriate at our age now that most of our life is now behind us. This understanding would be much more valuable back then and in today’s society we are deemed too old to give any significant advice.
Remember your reaction when your elders tried to give you advice back then?
So I guess what I’m saying is yes, with age comes experience. Not about today’s changing technologies or social or digital where with all. Today’s society has changed and so has the people within it. But as elders, we can give life advice on how to traverse through it. How your emotions control your decisions and how to step back and rethink before going forward. How one day you will look back and see all the mistakes that you have made because you were so emotionally engaged at the time and — couldn’t see the Forest for the trees.
Will anybody listen? I dunno? Would you have back then?
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THE WORD OF WAYNE
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